Become an Extrovert Through Introverted Interests

I guess this whole article could be summarized with a sentence: “Join a club!” This might sound like classic advice, but I am dead serious. Humans get close through three things: necessity, shared experiences, and shared interests. I hope you don’t have to make all of your relationships through necessity, and the experiences will come, but first you need something to talk about and likely do together.

Now one thing you should definitely not do is join a Discord server or other online community and call it a day. You might have picked up from this blog that I am big on the importance of in-person, face-to-face interaction. Nothing can replace that. The illusion of connection through social media and other online socializations harms society. It’s no surprise to me that our rates of suicide are going up, and sex is going down. You need to get out and meet people!

Popular Examples of Introverted Activities Turned Extrovert

Book clubs
Reading is often a solo activity, but book clubs create an opportunity to discuss ideas, explore new perspectives, and bond over shared literary interests. Whether it's a monthly meetup at a local café or library, book clubs turn reading into a social event where you can connect over your favorite stories.

Art classes / Arts and Crafts meetups
Art can be a peaceful solo practice, but joining a group brings a whole new dimension. You’ll not only learn new techniques but also share your creative process with others, get feedback, and build friendships through mutual encouragement. It’s a great way to make art both relaxing and social.

Gaming groups (in-person board game nights or tabletop RPGs)
Board games and tabletop RPGs are perfect for introverts who love a good mental challenge. Instead of playing alone or online, attend local board game meetups. The games themselves offer structured interaction, and before you know it, you’re laughing and strategizing with new friends.

Photography clubs or nature walks
Photography is often a solo hobby, but photography clubs or group nature walks bring like-minded people together to explore new settings and learn from each other. You can swap tips, scout locations, and work on capturing the perfect shot as a team. The shared experience of being outdoors and honing a craft creates easy camaraderie.

Language exchange groups
Learning a new language might feel like a solo challenge, but language exchange groups bring people together to practice and improve. Not only do you improve your speaking skills, but you also meet new people from diverse backgrounds, turning an introverted pursuit into an exciting cultural and social exchange.

Each of these starts with something people usually do solo, but when you bring others in, it opens up the chance for shared experiences. Plus, having a focused activity gives you a natural conversation starter, so no one is stuck in that awkward small talk phase. It's an easy way to blend introverted passions with the benefits of social connection.

The key is to find something you genuinely enjoy! If you're faking interest in an activity just to meet people, it's going to be a drag. Instead, focus on things that light you up, and the rest will follow naturally. BE YOURSELF ALWAYS, LIVE AUTHENTICALLY.