10 Things to Say to the Person at the Front Desk

10 Things to Say to the Person at the Front Desk

Sometimes, for whatever reason, I have been nervous about my interactions with someone working the front desk of a place I regularly go to. Something about talking with someone where it’s bound to always be small talk between each other for a very long repeated period of time, kills me. But alas, here we strive to improve our social skills in simple ways. Here are some ideas:

“How’s it going?”
A timeless classic. Imagine showing interest in someone’s feelings? It works.

“I like your shirt/hair/etc.”
Only say this if it’s genuine, people can always tell. This is a good one to keep in your back pocket for any social setting. Surprise, surprise, people generally like compliments.

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Skipping the last one, if you’ve been coming to the same place for a while and keep seeing the same person over and over again, it can really spice both of your lives up to break the ice and take some interest in who they are. Once you do this, it might make every other interaction between you two way more tolerable.

“What’s crackin big fella?”
Good for the gym. If you can say this somewhat confidently, you might make the person laugh and immediately like you. If you send me a video of trying this, I will post it on this blog. Do not say this to a woman.

“Busy day today?”
This one works almost anywhere, whether it’s a coffee shop, gym, or office. It shows you’re aware of their job and it opens the door for them to share more about their day. You might be surprised at how much people appreciate this kind of empathy.

“Do you have any weekend plans?”
A light, non-invasive question that’s great for Friday or even midweek. It opens up room for casual conversation without feeling too personal.

“What’s the best thing to order here?”
This one’s perfect if you’re at a café, restaurant, or anywhere that offers products or services. People love giving recommendations, and it turns the interaction from a transaction into something a bit more personal.

“Is there a secret menu item I should know about?”
Works like magic in places that serve food or drinks. It’s playful and shows that you’re up for a fun conversation.

“Has it been a crazy week for you?”
Again, acknowledging the person’s experience. If they seem stressed or have been extra busy, this one can help start a conversation about their day in a thoughtful way. It’s less generic than “How’s it going?” and might lead to a more authentic chat.

“Do you ever get tired of being so helpful?”
This one is a little cheeky but lighthearted. It’s a subtle compliment, and if said with the right tone, it can break the monotony of their day.

The goal is to make these interactions feel a little more personal and genuine, not forced. Even small connections with people we see regularly can go a long way in improving our social skills, especially in settings where it’s easy to stay stuck in autopilot mode.